sweet friend,
i can tell today has been a hard day- your heart is heavy, your mind is overwhelmed, and your life is seeming to be a little too hectic. but when someone comes up, when someone asks you that question- the one you secretly dread, the one you always answer the same way- you smile. you smile despite the tears that want to pour out of your eyes. you smile despite the hurting you have been holding. you smile, look them in the eyes and lie. you smile and say “i’m great! how are you?”.
i apologize for not stopping to ask how you really are. i apologize for allowing you to adopt a mindset that you have to be “okay” for everyone else. i apologize for allowing you to feel that your life must be perfect in order to feel confident and loved. my love, if i could tell you one thing it would be this: it’s okay to not be okay.
it’s okay.
it’s okay.
it’s okay. i promise it’s okay.
my sweet friend, you never have to be something that you’re not. you never have to build a persona around yourself that exudes a sense of confidence, assurance, and okayness. i know it’s hard, but let someone in, let them fight your battles alongside of you- this life wasn’t meant to be lived by yourself. let your heart settle into a place of authenticity. a place of “i’m not okay, but one day soon i will be.” because one day you will be.
so my sweet friend, how are you? how are you really? let’s grab a coffee and chat ❤